To the Mom Recovering from a Rough Day

To the Mom whose infant cried for no apparent reason (all his needs had been met!!) during your entire trip to the pharmacy,

And

whose toddler just threw a screaming tantrum in the aisle at Target (or in the middle of your living room),

And

whose preschooler just had a meltdown in the grocery store parking lot,

And

whose early elementary school kid (!!) just had an explosive, angry outburst at the post office.

I have a few things to say to you:

You are not a failure.

You are not a bad Mom.

And most importantly, you are not alone.

To the Mom Recovering from a Rough Day

I have been the Mom in all 4 scenarios described above. Some quite recently, in fact. So even if it’s only our kids that are doing those things (which I know it’s not!), we’re still in this crazy parenting thing together…not by ourselves.

So go ahead. Finish that pharmacy trip like you can’t even hear the baby screaming. Pick that toddler (or preschooler or elementary kid) up. Either put him in the cart or carry him outside to collect his (and your) wits and get back in there to finish your errand. With your head held high.

(And remember, anyone giving you judgmental looks has likely either never had young kids or has forgotten what it was like. Just shake that off.)

Be firm.

Be consistent with your response. Try not to get all riled up. Take deep breaths and keep calm.

And do what you need to do. You can do your best to get that errand done. As fast as possible. Because you’re the parent, after all, and you’re there for a reason! Or you can just leave and come back later, especially if having a crying kid is not an option in that moment (at the library, for instance).

But don’t beat yourself up.

To the Mom Recovering from a Rough Day

Administer an appropriate consequence to your child (if applicable) and move on.

Later, when the kids are napping or in bed, think about what happened. See if you can identify what triggered the behavior so you can recognize and hopefully prevent a future incident, if possible. Make sure you have clear and simple rules and consequences that are easy to follow and realistic to enforce. Now’s the time to make changes…not in the heat of the moment when your frustration causes you to spew out consequences you don’t want to (or simply can’t) enforce.

And most importantly:

Forgive your kids for being disobedient or disrespectful or embarrassing or whatever.

And forgive yourself, especially if you didn’t like how you responded or if you feel overwhelmed.

Then look forward to tomorrow’s fresh start.

5 thoughts on “To the Mom Recovering from a Rough Day

  1. Gypsy Rains says:

    Thank you for this post! This is something every Mama needs be reminded of sometimes. We do the best we can with what we have and cranky babies are not our fault! Discipline should be used as a teaching tool, not an outlet for our frustration. Love your words!!! ❤

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    • savvyschooling says:

      First, you are definitely not alone!! This motherhood thing can be so wonderful but also so HARD. Kids can be tough and it’s so easy to feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t have it all figured out. I am so glad that my post was able to encourage you during a tough time and I’m so glad you let me know! That’s why I started blogging in the first place and to know that I could help someone else means the world to me.

      Second, I am so humbled and honored that you have found my blog to be so interesting and helpful that you nominated me for the Blogger Recognition Award! ❤ I am blown away!!! I will work on the nomination rules as soon as I get a chance. You've made my week!

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